A good psychologist is not the “best known” one, but the one with whom you feel safe, understand the purpose of the sessions and see sensible steps forward – without pressure and without judgement.

Posts about “the best psychologist” sound tempting, but the truth is simpler: a good psychologist is a good fit. For your issue, for their way of working and for what you need right now.

Below is a practical checklist that helps you choose wisely (and not fall into the trap of empty promises).

1) Do you feel safe and “normal”

After the first session you do not have to feel euphoric. It is more important that you do not feel ashamed, judged or “put down”. Safety is the foundation.

2) A clear goal and plan (even a preliminary one)

It is a good sign when the two of you can name:

  • what you are coming with (specifics),
  • how you will know things have improved,
  • what the first steps will be.

3) Questions worth asking at the first consultation

  • “What does work with a similar issue usually look like?”
  • “How will we check progress?”
  • “What can I do between sessions?”
  • “What if I get stuck or don’t have the energy?”

4) Red flags (when to be careful)

  • promises of a “quick fix” without getting to know your situation,
  • shaming, moralising,
  • no room for questions and no explanations,
  • jumping between topics without any structure.

5) A good fit with your issue

If your issue is stress, anxiety, burnout or low self-esteem, you can start with these pages to see whether “this is about you”:

If you would like to book a consultation: Services and Contact.

FAQ – choosing a psychologist

Are online reviews important?
They can help, but they are not an oracle. Look instead for a match in working style and for whether you leave a session with a sense of purpose and safety.
What if after 1–2 sessions I feel it isn’t right?
It happens. It is worth naming it and talking it through. Sometimes all it takes is adjusting the goal, and sometimes it is better to look for a better fit.
Do I have to tell everything straight away?
No. The pace of the conversation is meant to suit you. You can start with the current problem and only go deeper with time.
How often do the sessions take place?
That depends on the goal and on what is possible for you. Most often a regular rhythm is agreed, and then adjusted.

This content is for information purposes only and does not replace an individual medical or psychological consultation.

Natalia Kostusiak, MA – psychologist
Natalia Kostusiak, MA • Psychologist
Author of psychoeducational articles that promote knowledge about mental health.